Friday, November 23, 2007

Make the best of it!

A few years ago my wife and I purchased a motor home. We both love traveling and found this a great way to experience the outdoors while spending time with our kids. This last week we celebrated Thanksgiving with our family in the mountains near our home. I usually make the reservations, but since a few of my in-laws don’t have RV’s, we let them pick a campground that had several cabins.

The moment I arrived, I knew we were in trouble. The park was at least fifty years old and I quickly discovered the sites were too small for my 42’ coach, didn’t have enough power, there was no sewer, and no services. The only place I could park was at the bottom of a hill in the middle of five other campers. You should have seen the look on my teenagers faces when I told them they would have no cell service, no Internet, and no television for the next three days. It was classic. “It is no use complaining about it,” I told them, “there is nothing we can do about it now.” Once we realized we were “stuck”, we all relaxed and made the best of it. We hiked, read, and played games. It was actually a great trip.

Every day we find ourselves dealing with “Bad Situations.” It’s amazing to me to see how some people react to them. Here are a few that you might relate with.

Waiting in a long line. I was recently in line at a retail store and witnessed a lady huffin' and puffin' while complaining how long the line was to anyone who would listen. "Why can't they get more help?!" she exclaimed, along with saying, "This is ridiculous!" every 30 seconds or so. When she finally left the store, just about everyone left in line clapped. When you find yourself in a long line, begin by realizing that your impatience will not make the line go any faster. Then do something to keep yourself occupied: read a book, strike up a conversation with another person, send an encouraging text message to someone who might need it.

Being stuck in traffic. The next time you are stuck in traffic, look at the people in the other cars. Although the suffering of others is generally not a source of humor, it is quite humorous watching how people respond to traffic. While in my car, I recently looked over at a gentleman waving his arms in fury screaming at the traffic. He then looked at me, looking at him, and we both started laughing. Like waiting in line, your fury will not make the traffic go away. Take advantage of this time by listening to a cd.

Being threatened or sued by a person or company.

Here are some general things to remember when faced with a bad situation:

It is pointless and non-productive to be worried, angry, or upset. Although these are usually some of the initial reactions to adversity, we must learn to take control of our emotions and move to a more productive state of mind.

See the big picture. In most situations we refer to as "bad", they are really quite insignificant when looking at the big picture. If you are taking a week's vacation with your family, you miss your flight, and you are fortunate enough to get a flight that leaves 6 hours later, realize that only a small portion of your vacation is affected. Accept the situation and then make the best of it.

Look for good in a bad situation. Just about every bad situation has the seed of an equivalent or even greater good; you just need to know where to look. This is where a positive mental attitude really comes in handy. At the very least, bad situations can be written off as good experience. "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want."

Maintain a good sense of humor. A good sense of humor can make light of just about any bad situation. Laughter really is the best medicine.

The next time you find yourself in a bad situation, remember attitude and action. At first, you may feel like you are fighting your true emotions, but remember that negative emotions will only make the situation worse while positive emotions can quickly spread and make the situation better for everyone involved. The ability to make the best of a bad situation is a sign of true leader. And lord knows, we are looking for “True Leaders”!

Monday, November 19, 2007

Abraham Lincoln's Thanksgiving Proclamation 1863

Like many people across the country, I am heading out of town for the next few days to spend some time with my family. This year has been an amazing year. Looking back, I have so many things to be Thankful for. I came across this letter the other day and thought some of you might enjoy it.

Abraham Lincoln's Thanksgiving Proclamation
(from the collection of Lincoln's papers in the Library of America series, Vol II, pp. 520-521).

"The year that is drawing towards its close, has been filled with the blessings of fruitful fields and healthful skies. To these bounties, which are so constantly enjoyed that we are prone to forget the source from which they come, others have been added, which are of so extraordinary a nature, that they cannot fail to penetrate and soften even the heart which is habitually insensible to the ever watchful providence of Almighty God.

In the midst of a civil war of unequalled magnitude and severity, which has sometimes seemed to foreign States to invite and to provoke their aggression, peace has been preserved with all nations, order has been maintained, the laws have been respected and obeyed, and harmony has prevailed everywhere except in the theatre of military conflict; while that theatre has been greatly contracted by the advancing armies and navies of the Union. Needful diversions of wealth and of strength from the fields of peaceful industry to the national defense, have not arrested the plough, the shuttle, or the ship; the axe had enlarged the borders of our settlements, and the mines, as well of iron and coal as of the precious metals, have yielded even more abundantly than heretofore. Population has steadily increased, notwithstanding the waste that has been made in the camp, the siege and the battle-field; and the country, rejoicing in the consciousness of augmented strength and vigor, is permitted to expect continuance of years with large increase of freedom.

No human counsel hath devised nor hath any mortal hand worked out these great things. They are the gracious gifts of the Most High God, who, while dealing with us in anger for our sins, hath nevertheless remembered mercy. It has seemed to me fit and proper that they should be solemnly, reverently and gratefully acknowledged as with one heart and voice by the whole American People. I do therefore invite my fellow citizens in every part of the United States, and also those who are at sea and those who are sojourning in foreign lands, to set apart and observe the last Thursday of November next, as a day of Thanksgiving and Praise to our beneficent Father who dwelleth in the Heavens. And I recommend to them that while offering up the ascriptions justly due to Him for such singular deliverances and blessings, they do also, with humble penitence for our national perverseness and disobedience, commend to his tender care all those who have become widows, orphans, mourners or sufferers in the lamentable civil strife in which we are unavoidably engaged, and fervently implore the interposition of the Almighty Hand to heal the wounds of the nation and to restore it as soon as may be consistent with the Divine purposes to the full enjoyment of peace, harmony, tranquility and Union.

It is the duty of nations as well as of men to own their dependence upon the overruling power of God; to confess their sins and transgressions in humble sorrow, yet with assured hope that genuine repentance will lead to mercy and pardon; and to recognize the sublime truth, announced in the Holy Scriptures and proven by all history, that those nations are blessed whose God is the Lord."

Abraham Lincoln's Thanksgiving Proclamation October 3, 1863

Happy Thanksgiving!

God Bless,


Sunday, November 18, 2007

Who said what?

“Shelly said I was ugly,” my eleven year old daughter said when she came home from school. “Who did?” I asked. “A girl in my English class, do you remember her?" was her reply. "I don't, Why would she say that, and more importantly, do you think it’s true?” I asked. She thought for a minute , “Not really, but it wasnt very nice of her.”
I agreed, told her how pretty she is, and then we spoke for a few minutes trying to decipher the root of Shelly's criticism. (Shelly liked a boy, who liked my daughter, nothing more... )

“You want critics in your life,” I said to my daughter. “really?” she questioned. “ Yes, trust me on this one.”
Although it’s hard to comprehend for an eleven year old, everyone who has ever accomplished anything significant in life has a loyal following of critics. You can start with the president, then work backwards from there. Find any successful person or worthy cause, and I can point you at a person, a writer or a blog that despises them.

We know that the higher you climb the ladder in life, the more your rear end is exposed. On the Free the IBO blog, the author said “To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.”
To put it differently, ” If no one is shooting at you, you're not doing enough.”

Critics are a part of life and are not necessarily a bad thing. We can listen to what is said, then sort through all the noise to see if any of the points are valid. If I were to internalize ALL the criticism I have received over the years, I would be in a homeless shelter somewhere, sucking my thumb, rocking back and forth in the fetal position.

Criticism can be very helpful if it’s coming from a good source with the right intentions. It can help by;
1. Identifying flat spots in your thinking.
2. Making you aware of others’ perspective.
3. Keeping you accountable for your words and actions.

I gave my daughter an outline I have used for years to cut through most of it.

“First, you need to weed out jealousy, bitter people, or those with a different philosophical or moral compass.” I said. “If an atheist criticizes me for being a Christian, personally, I take that as a compliment.”

“Next, you have to figure out the relevance. I have always based the weight of any criticism on three factors. My relationship with them, their knowledge of the events, and their personal track record. "

I add them up as follows;

Their relationship with me
None 1
Acquaintance 2
Friend 3
Relative/Good friend 4
Mentor 5

Their Knowledge of the events
None 1
very Little 2
Some 3
knowledgeable 4
Expert 5

Their Track record
None 1
Minimal 2
Average 3
Good 4
Successful 5

"Add up the three, and this is what you should do," I explained.

3 - 6 Flush it ( Not worth thinking about )
7 - 9 Acknowledge it ( Look at facts to verify )
10 - 12 Consider it ( Most likely some truth in it )
13 -15 Respect it ( Look again at your beliefs and validate them or change)

When a critic scores a 3, you are wasting your time even thinking about it.

Conversely, if one scores a 15, and you don’t listen, shame on you!

This is why the decisions being made up in Ada the last few months have been so baffling to many of us. Can you imagine having a group of critics show up at your door with the following score?

Relationship 5 (Good friends / Mentors to 1000's, combined total of 150+ years partnered with you)
Knowledge 5 (The best and brightest you have )
Track Record 5 ( Speaks for itself )

Friday, November 16, 2007

"Experts" in the bleachers?

Last night I went to a high school football game. With two teen cheerleader daughters, I try to make it to as many as possible. I got there a little late so I was forced to sit in the “nose bleed section” near the top of the bleachers. Sitting directly behind me was “The Man”. If you have ever been to a sporting event, then you know this guy. He is the vocal one who has his personal commentary on every play. The one that know everything about everything but never personally made it in the game.

This guy yelled at the kids, chewed out the coaches, then called the referee “blind” when he made a call that he didn't like. “I am sure he had a better view from a quarter mile away than the ref did on the field,” I remember thinking.

As much as I wanted to say something, for the sake of the kids around me, I bit my lip and waited anxiously for the end of the game. Many others were not as patient. Argument after argument broke out behind me. The game was no longer about the action that night, it was about the opinions in the stands. I finally had it, “GUYS!”, I said,” While you all have interesting ideas, The Game is on the field!

When I woke up this morning, I checked my e-mails, then ran through the various A/Q & Team blogs to get caught up on the last few days. I hit the Alticor media blog, the Amway blog, then read a few of the comments. Twenty minutes later I found myself smiling. I figured out the name of the guy sitting behind me last night. His name is Tex. This guy has to be the most prolific poster this industry has ever seen. I bet the commentary on the A/Q blogs are 50% Tex. Either him personally sharing his wisdom regarding every post made, or replies back to his verbal diarrhea. All of this from an guy that has stated he is not even a Platinum. His thoughts on the “scam” have been answered by Team and explained well by Q'Reilly. Now it has just become annoying.

My mom always said;
Never wrestle with a pig ... you'll both get dirty, and only the pig will enjoy it. Somewhere Tex is smiling.....

Remember Team, ( I am speaking to myself as well ),
The Game is on the Field.
We have a million leaders to find!

Little eyes are watching.

A few Sundays ago, I went through my normal morning routine. Wake up the kids, fix breakfast, take a shower, then round up the family and head to church. With four women in my house, I was running late as usual. (It’s not considered disparagement against women if I am stating “facts”…. is it? Hmmm? ) Anyway, not to place the blame on my spouse or any particular child, we were about 15 minutes behind schedule.

Once we got everyone in the car, I tried to make up a little time on the road. I am normally a good driver and try to obey the laws, but this particular morning I was in a rush.

When I got close to my exit, I past a car on my right, signaled, then crossed into their lane. I paused for a second, signaled again, and then continued down the ramp. I felt like I had enough space for the lane change, but the female driver of the car behind me thought differently. I received an immediate honk, then a single finger out the window at the stop light. (and no, it was not “your #1” )

Thankfully, my kids were oblivious to the gesture. My wife on the other hand, witnessed the entire thing. She rolled her eyes and shook her head. “Don’t people know there are little eyes watching?” she asked.

The car sped around me when the light turned green then took off down the road. I gave her a little space to avoid a repeat, then continued to church.

I knew that there would only be a few parking spots left, so I went to the back lot and parked my car. As I stepped out, another car drove in from the opposite direction and parked next to me. Immediately, I recognized the driver as the girl who “saluted” me five minutes earlier. She got out of her car, said good morning to me and my family, and then headed towards the chapel.

Didn’t have a clue did she?” asked my wife. “Nope, no idea,” I replied.

My pastor’s message that day was about “living a Christ like life.” My first response was a quick chuckle since my “new” friend was a few rows away. Suddenly I was reminded of all the things I had done the previous weeks and months.
I thought of the time I had lost my temper and said things I shouldn't’ have. I was reminded of a comment that I had made that hurt a friends’ feelings. I remembered losing my patience that very morning and barking at my kids for being late. I thought of the time I asked my daughter to lie for me when the phone rang and I told her to tell them I was not home. Yes, it was a virtual movie for the next 20-30 minutes.

I was reminded of Matthew 7:3 "Why do you stare from without at the very small particle that is in your brother's eye but do not become aware of and consider the beam of timber that is in your own eye?"

After church I apologized to my children, then called a few friends to do the same. We must never forget, there are always little (and big) eyes watching.

Lessons for my son, part 1

Tonight I spent a few minutes reading to my son before he went to sleep. Six years old is a terrific age, so full of energy and eager to learn. I reached for an old book of Aesop fables and decided I would read him a few of the classics. After each story, we would discuss the morals, then I would ask him a few questions.

The third one was a favorite of mine.

The Goose That Laid the Golden Eggs

A man and his wife had the good fortune to possess a goose which laid a golden egg every day. Lucky though they were, they soon began to think they were not getting rich fast enough, and, imagining the bird must be made of gold inside, they decided to kill it in order to secure the whole store of precious metal at once. But when they cut it open they found it was just like any other goose. Thus, they neither got rich all at once, as they had hoped, nor enjoyed any longer the daily addition to their wealth.


Much wants more yet oft loses all.

Greed destroys the source of good.

Think before you act.

Then I asked my son a few questions to see if he had grasped the principles.

Who should be the most thankful buddy, the goose or the farmer?
“The farmer” he said,” the goose did all the work, all the farmer did was give it a little food. Anyone could give it food.”

"Very good, If the goose wanted a little change to the coop, should the farmer listen to it, or should he ignore it?"
“He better listen," he said, "if not, the goose will just fly away."

"That's right, so, If you own the goose, should you take care of the goose, or just demand the eggs?" I asked .
“I would be the lucky one." he answered,"I would pet it every day and take it for walks… I would feed it candy or whatever it wants… if not, it won’t give me eggs anymore."

"Very good bud" I replied. "Last question, If the goose did want to leave, what would you do? Would you thank it for all the eggs it gave you over the years, or WOULD YOU CALL IT NAMES, SEND LETTERS TO ALL ITS FRIENDS, THEN PULL OUT A MACHINE GUN AND SHOOT AT EVERYONE AS THEY TRIED TO FLY AWAY?!!!!"

“WHAT?” asked my concerned son. “You are funny dad, that would be really dumb!”

I laughingly agreed.

“Sorry little buddy,.. kind of got carried away,... I was thinking of different story.”

Sunday, November 11, 2007

Flat Spots

It has been a tradition for years. Every summer, we grab our kids and our friends and head to the beach. We play volleyball, eat lots of food, then head to the fire ring for a bonfire. It usually takes about 10 to 15 minutes, but after the fire is lit and the smore’s are finished, someone always does the inevitable. They toss a marshmallow at someone across the fire from them. Then, like a volcano exploding, an eruption of Marshmallows fills the air. For 20 - 30 minutes it's a free-for-all. Actually, toss is probably the wrong word. Throw, pitch, fling, fire, or hurl would be more appropriate. Not just a few either, they are in the hundreds, if not thousands. I am sure every Marshmallow manufacturer's stock soars the week before our annual get together.

A few years back, I was speaking with a good friend, prior to our Marshmallow ritual. She said, “Do you know what part of the country marshmallows grow in?” “What!” I replied. “ You know… what part of the country do they grow marshmallows?, I have never seen the trees around here.” As you can imagine, our friends question caught me a little off guard. “Marshmallow trees?” I asked her to confirm what I heard. “yes” she said. I chuckled a bit then asked “ Really, so who in the world did you learn that from?”
At 10 years old it may have been cute, but a 32 year old mother asking a question like that, I had to say something.

Later that year, I was at one of my mentors’ house. I had a few questions about my finances that I wanted to run by him. He asked me what my thinking was on an issue so I started to explain. Something about my viewpoint caught him off guard. He asked me to clarify and I confirmed my thought. He chuckled a bit then said, “ Really, so who in the world did you learn that from? "
“Touché” I remember thinking.

We all have flat spots in our thinking. Things that we have been told, or beliefs that we carry throughout our lives. As funny as it was, my friends’ false belief in marshmallow trees was harmless. On the other hand, my false financial beliefs could have cost me millions.

Our knowledge comes from many sources. We learn from teachers, relatives, and friends. We learn from religious establishments, the Internet, from neighbors, and the media.
We have a constant stream of information coming at us from the time we wake in the morning, to the time we go to bed at night.

Many times we don’t even take the time to validate the source or the facts for many of the ideas that comprise our belief system. A Marshmallow Tree? My friend had not even thought of the source of her belief (her brother, by the way ), or done her homework to confirm it was factual. When you think about how many people buy in to everything they see on television, you realize this is true.

While we will never eliminate all "flat spots", here are a few tips to minimize yours;

1. Acknowledge that you have them. ( don't feel bad, we all do )
2. Do your homework. ( As Reagan said, "trust but validate" )
3. Find mentors in all areas of your life. Not just people with opinions ( they are a dime a dozen ), but with people who have the “fruit on the tree.” ( are where you personally want to be )
4. Learn to think full circle ( we will discuss this later )
5. Commit to a lifetime of learning

My friend was thankful I questioned her belief.... almost as much as I was thankful my mentor questioned mine.


My nanny walked in our kitchen last week and approached my wife and I. “I have great news”, she said with a huge smile, “ I am pregnant!” My wife screamed, then we celebrated for a few minutes. We are so excited for her and her husband since this will be their first child. We gave her a hug, then she headed for the door.
“I have to run” she said, “My husband and I are going crib shopping.”

All of us that are parents know how crazy and exciting their next nine months will be. Although we may have busy lives, suddenly, our entire life is now consumed in preparation for the “future” baby. A space has to be found, floors cleaned, walls painted, and furniture purchased. All of this, for a child that won’t arrive for months. My wife and I know this first hand. With four children, we have spent at least three years of our lives “nesting”

A couple we have mentored for the last few years came by for dinner last week. Once finished, we spent some time chatting. They have been listening to CD’s, and reading books for the past few months but had an interesting question for me. “We know that we are growing personally and learning new skills, but we don’t really see any opportunities in our life right now where we can apply them.”

The truth is, everyday of our lives we have opportunities that come our way. They may happen at your church, your school, in your neighborhood, or at your place of employment. They may be associated with a child, a spouse, or as a way to serve your community. They may be financially or in business, but they come at us daily. This is when you get the chance to apply what you have learned.

Imagine having a child, then realizing you never prepared? It would not be fatal to your baby, but I am sure we would all agree, the first few week of your child’s life would be better spent bonding, than trying to catch up with things undone.
The same is true with leadership training and personal development. It is much better to grow as a person with no apparent opportunity, than to have an opportunity come your way and not be prepared. Most would struggle for a while or miss the opportunity all together.

"Before everything else, getting ready is the secret to success." - Henry Ford

“So get ready my friends. Read, listen, and grow everyday," I told them, ” It is times like these we prepare for our Destiny.”

Friday, November 9, 2007

Guiding Principles

Last night I caught my teenage daughter in a lie. She is an incredible girl and an absolute joy to me and her mom. Most children struggle through their teen years, I know I did. Looking back, I am amazed my parents let me live through it. Well, I guess tonight was a bit of a “payback”. ( I can hear my parents laughing now as they read this )
After the initial confrontation was over and I sent her to her room, I decided to write her a letter. I am not very good at putting my thoughts to paper ( as I am sure you have seen ), but I wanted her to have something physical she could look back on. I wanted to post a portion of this letter because I believe I got more out of it than she will.

"….. The second thing I wanted to talk to you about is finding yourself. Who you are, and how your life progresses will be determined by what your priorities are. What is most important to you ______? That is something that you will have to define as you go through life. I will tell you what my guiding Principles are...

1. My belief and relationship with God.
2. The love and protection of my Family
3. My love for the Country that I live in.
4. Trust

5. Honesty ( being true to your word )
6. Character ( doing the right thing, even when no one is watching )
7. Integrity ( Doing what you say… honoring your promises )
8. Living a “Christ-like” life ( serving and loving others )
9. Living by Gods laws ( following the 10 commandments )
10. Striving for excellence in everything I do.

I have done my best to live by these rules and would be willing to die to defend anyone of them! … I haven’t been perfect, but my life has been incredibly blessed because these principles guide me....
I meet people every day that try to short cut these guiding principles. They lie and cheat. Some will make choices that hurt others, just because it makes them feel good or get what they want. Some will do things that are a “short-cut” to happiness or success by stepping on others or compromising their morals or integrity.

Think of two people who take a class, one person cheats and lies all the way through it, the other studies and works hard. At the end of the year they both get the same grade… an A. From the outside, they both look equal.. they both got an A, but underneath, there is a HUGE problem. One will have their life defined by hard work and effort, while the others will be defined by the way they tried to cheat their way through life. I see this every day. That is why I only surround myself with people who live by principle......

..Nowhere on my list is make my daughter unhappy or ...

.... Here is what I want you to know, If our relationship ever gets strained, look at the list above and you will find the principle you are violating. We can fix what you did yesterday, but it will take time. Remember this… “It takes “years” to develop trust, character, and relationships, but only minutes to lose them.

I love you,

Dad "

I know that my daughter will get through this but I felt bad that it took a situation like this to write out my “Guiding Principles” again. The truth is, it had been way too long.
Once we define these principle's, may we strive till our very last breath to live by them.

"Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.”Matthew 5: 16

Thursday, November 8, 2007

It's Ok to laugh.

This morning I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I am a “night person” by nature but usually wake up in a good mood.

Not this morning!

It may be the change in time, the cold weather, or maybe I just slept wrong. Whatever the cause, I woke up a little grumpy. My wife must have realized it because she jumped out of bed quicker than normal. Ten minutes later she put a laptop on my bed and said “watch this”. Then she walked out of the room.

With one eye open, I pushed play and watched this video.

Although this is a story about overcoming adversity, by the third time I watched this, I was laughing so hard I was in tears.

Laughter isn't just fun and enjoyable; it's good for our health. Each month modern medicine is discovering more about the therapeutic dimension of humor and laughter.

When we laugh we ...
- Alleviate depression
- Lower our blood pressure;
- Promote relaxation;
- Reduce stress;
- Increase the oxygen level in our blood, giving us more energy;
- Increase the endorphin activity in our body resulting in a sense of well being;
- Are able to keep things in perspective
- Banish boredom;
- Are more attractive - people enjoy being with those who laugh easily and often;
- Immeasurably increase our enjoyment of life.
- People who can laugh at their own problems rise above the pit of self-pity;

they begin to feel uplifted, encouraged, and imbued with a sense of power

Laughter has been called social glue because it bonds us to the people we laugh with. The message is clear ... If it feels good to laugh, then Laugh to feel good.

Too live Better, Laugh more !

So go ahead, hit play one more time, it changed my day and it could change yours.

Do it, you are going to thank me for it :)

Launching a Leadership Revolution

I want to congratulate Orrin and Chris for the success of their book, Launching a leadership revolution. LLR just hit #7 for all hardcover books on the Wall Street Journal Best Seller list.

On Orrins’ site he states “This is a tribute to all the hard working leaders who have each one reached one the book into another leader's hands. How many more leaders can we reach? Every person we reach is a win for you (Influence), win for them (Leadership), and win for charities (All Royalties), and win for community (Credibility). "

I have read countless books over the years and this one is on the top of my list.

"If you would not be forgotten,
As soon as you are dead and rotten,
Either write things worth reading,
Or do things worth writing."

- Benjamin Franklin

Ben would be proud, Orrin Woodward and Chris Brady are doing both!

Congratulations again, you are both making a difference!

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

Why Leadership?

A good friend of mine called me today to get “caught up”. We spoke about the kids and our families, then complained a bit about how fast time seems to fly by. The next question he asked me was “How’s your Business”? We have been friends a long time so he was shocked when I said “I don’t have one”. I spoke briefly of the events that led to my recent decision and spoke fondly of my past experiences with Q. (Yes, fond memories. I was partnered with A/Q for much of my adult life. While I disagree with the direction the owners have taken the last few months and the subsequent “knee jerk” reactions of its legal department, I refuse to throw all the good times and memories out the window. I have many great friends that have decided to stay with A/Q and I wish them all the best ) “So what are you doing now”? he asked. “Building Leaders” I stated. “Why Leadership”? was his reply. We spoke a while longer and then hung up the phone.

“Why Leadership?”

This question has many bystanders a little confused with the purpose of TEAM.

Most of the world would say leadership is a position of power or authority, we on the other hand, know that leadership is the ability to influence. Most would see leadership training as way to get a job or a promotion, we see it as a way to change the world. I know, I know, I have been “drinking the Koolaid”. But here is the difference… I have experienced first hand what the “right” training can do to impact your life and those around you. My life was forever changed the day a friend gave me the book The Magic of Thinking Big. There is no way I could repay my friend for what he did by giving me a mid-life course correction on the direction of my life.

I am reminded of the writing on a tomb of an 11th century Anglican bishop inside Westminster Abbey:

"When I was young and free my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But it, too, seemed immovable. As I grew in my twilight years, in one desperate last attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it. And now as I lay on my deathbed, I suddenly realized: If I had only changed myself first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed the world."

We are changing the world my friends, one leader at a time!


- noun
1. A feeling of deep and bitter anger and ill-will

Last night I decided to do a little reading. No, not the kind that improves your life like the books we have with Team. I did the “other” kind of reading. I spent two or three hours reading the blogs that describe the recent events that affect all of us with TEAM.

I started with the pro A/Q blogs. I read much of the Alticor Media Blog, the Amway Blog, then the Real Quixtar Blog.

My next read was the anti A/Q blogs. One man’s Perspective, Amquix Info, and others each got a brief overview.

The remainder of my time was spent on blogs obviously written by leaders who find themselves in a similar situation as me and my friends. The Free The IBO Blog, IBO Rebellion, Q'Reilly, Save us Dick DeVos, and others.

Needless to say, there is a lot of information online!

After twenty years of marriage, my wife asked me a interesting question the other night. My wife is an incredible woman. She has been kind and loving since the day we met. She truly is my best friend.
Her question to me was this… “After all we have been through, what would be the one thing that would ruin the relationship between the two of us”? Since she has proven to be faithful as well as loyal, only one word came to my mind.

Bitterness” I said.

I have spent my entire life around people. I have been a mentor as well as received mentorship. I have seen every personality combination imaginable. The one trait I have seen that is the hardest for me to deal with is “Bitterness”. All of us have been around people who sap our energy just by being in their presence. Some people lighten up a room when they enter, bitter people lighten the room when they exit. These people are absolutely "toxic". I believe God puts a few of these people in each of our lives to remind us how good we have it!

The truth is, we all have things in life that make us mad or angry. All of us have been “wronged” at some point in our life. Many of us feel very "wronged" at this time! It’s how we respond to these situations that will eventually define us. Some internalize the problems and it effects their attitude ( It’s not the snake bite that can kill you, it’s the poison ). Others shake it off and try to find the lessons in each of life’s problems.

While reading the blogs last night it became obvious to me that there are many “Bitter” bloggers. Tex, JThompson, and a handful of others quickly come to mind. I expected to see a few anti-team people name calling and bashing away, but was a little surprised to read a few of the post that appeared to be people from Team. I can certainly understand why a few unfocused critics are bitter, but my partners on TEAM??? We know where we are headed. We have an army of leaders to build! ( one million for starters )

While the situation we find ourselves in, can be unsettling at times, understand that God is in control. That is not to imply we will get our way and win every battle, rather it is to remind us all that there is a purpose for our lives and a common goal for the Team. The only way we will miss our destiny is for us to lose sight of those dreams and end up bitter.

We must not let that happen to any of us!

After hours of Tex et al, I think I will listen to an extra CD this afternoon. Maybe you should too.